Spice Up Your Sex Life
Read about the author Samantha Evans
Do you feel like your sex life is not what it used to be? You don’t need to accept this as inevitable as you get older. You can revitalize your sex life, no matter how old you are.
As time goes by, sex can become a little routine and boring. Here are a few ideas to put the vroom back into your engine and reignite your sex life.
Role Play
Bringing your imagination into the bedroom is essential to boosting the sexy factor in your daily life. UKMedix.com conducted a survey and found that the majority of Brits use role play to spice up their life and dressing up in uniform was the most common form of role play. Other role play included acting out everyday scenarios they found to be erotic as well as impersonating celebrities.
Try acting out different roles which turn your partner on and vice versa. Experiment with what works for you. Meeting your husband at the door dressed in a sexy tight skirt, blouse, stockings and heels will soon ignite his flame. Tell each other what makes you tick and what turns you on. You may be pleasantly surprised at what your partner fantasizes about. Role play enable you to connect sexual fantasies with reality. If you really get turned on by a casual encounter with a fireman or sailor, get your partner to dress up. Dressing up isn’t just for children, it’s fun for adults too.
Experiment with sex toys
Some men feel that they won’t match up to a sex toy and that they may be replaced by a vibrator. This couldn’t be more wrong. A third of Brits mentioned in the above research admitted to using sex toys to improve their sex life. Using sex toys together enhances sexual pleasure for both people involved. It is so easy to buy a high quality sex toy on line in the comfort and privacy of your home. Be sure to buy from a reputable supplier and buy only silicone, metal or glass products. Latex and rubbery products contains many unpleasant chemicals such as parabens and phthalates, the chemicals used to soften plastics which have been banned in children’s toys. These materials are difficult to clean properly and can cause infections. Use rechargeable toys to avoid the loss of vibrations at the crucial point, just remember to plug it in!
There is no single sex toy that is right for everyone. We all have differing sexual needs and experimenting with a variety of products will enable you to find the perfect toys for you. There are many sex toys available for use by both sexes which provide enormous pleasure. If you have a bad experience with one toy, don’t give up: try something else.
Read Erotica
Since the explosion of Fifty Shades of Grey on the bookshelves in 2011 there has been a proliferation of erotic fiction published. If Fifty Shades isn’t your cup of tea, there are many other books available to stimulate your sexual taste. Reading erotica has become the acceptable norm for many women and has kindled their sexual desires in many ways. Reading a short steamy erotic story can coax the first sparks of sexual desire in you. It may also give you some ideas for your own sex life too. My favourite erotic story involves ice cubes!
You could also write your own erotic fiction. Writing down your own sexual fantasies with your partner or filming yourselves during sex can really heat up your sexual desire. Don’t rely on ready made pornography, create your own. Just remember to delete it if you film it on the family camera!
By writing down your sexual fantasies and sharing them with your partner not only lets your partner know what you desire is bed but will also help you identify what it is you need to set your sexual flame alight. The more in tune you are with what you both want sexually, the more fulfilment you will discover in your sex life.
Variety is the spice of life
Vary where and when you have sex. Get off the bed and into the kitchen or on the dining room table. Change the time when you have sex, early morning sex has been proven to be extremely beneficial and there’s nothing more fun than drawing the curtains, or not, on a sunny afternoon to have elicit sex. Join your partner in the shower before work or choose a day when your life is less hectic and the children are fully occupied. Arrange to meet for lunch at lunch when the children are at school so you can have a midday quickie. This is great if finding time alone during your busy life is difficult. Surprise sex will always make your partner smile. Initiating sex with your partner will turn him on and remind him that you are not just a mother and wife but the sexy woman you were when you first met.
Change your sexual position. Being on top is extremely pleasurable for many women and will excite your partner too. Using a sex toy such as a vibrating cock ring will enhance both your pleasure and excitement.
Having a sex break can boost your sex life. The survey conducted by UKMedix.com found that a quarter of the people interviewed said they took sex breaks in order to boost their sex lives, saying it improved the quality of sex when the break was over.
Whatever method you employ to spice up your sex life, as long as both you and your partner are comfortable with it, that is all that matters. So go ahead, don those sexy role play outfits and be whoever you want to be!