Sex Aids for Older Adults

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Contrary to popular belief, older people enjoy a good sex life. According to a new study by Berdychevsky and Nimrod (2016), many older people say it is essential to their well-being, happiness and quality of life.

Often older adults become more creative with their sexual intimacy and pleasure to accommodate sexual issues such as erectile dysfunction, vaginal dryness and decreased sexual sensations.

This includes experimenting with sex aids, different positions or changes to their sex play. You can still enjoy great sex without penetration too.

However, many just explore new avenues to enjoy sexual pleasure, casting off old sexual inhibitions as they get older and having lots of fun in the process too!

Whether you are in a couple or single, incorporating sex toys into your sex play is a great way to increase your sexual pleasure, benefit your sexual health and experience different sexual sensations.

As there are many sex toys to choose from, we’ve put together this guide to skin safe sex toys that offer a wide range of sexual stimulation, increasing your sexual arousal, and sensation.

If you are a beginner, we always recommend that bigger is not necessarily better. However, starting with a non-intimidating, smaller-sized vibrator doesn’t mean you have to compromise on power. Many toys offer a variety of speed and pulsation settings, allowing you to find the perfect sexual stimulation for you.

Play around with the pulsation patterns and speeds of vibration to begin with. Start at a gentler setting, enjoying the new sensations the vibrations offer, and then work your way up to a more powerful setting for an incredible climax.

You may wish to choose a rechargeable sex toy that does not require batteries or would prefer a battery operated sex toy.

Sex toys for internal and external pleasure

Many women enjoy using a vibrator as they offer fabulous sexual stimulation both internally and externally. Most vibrators are great for both external and internal stimulation, but smaller clitoral sex toys are ideal during sexual intercourse to use on your clitoris if you struggle to enjoy an orgasm through penetration. Many are easy to use with one button controls.

Bullet style vibrators are easy to use with a one button control, and are small enough to massage over your clitoris during sex or for solo play. Rechargeable, pebble-sized clitoral stimulators are also great to use, and they look so discreet that many people wouldn’t even realise these are vibrators at a glance.

Some sex toys are not vibrators but use air pulse and sonic wave technology to gently tease and caress the clitoris. These are designed to be left in place, which may make them easier to use, especially you have limited manual dexterity.

If you struggle with vaginal tightness, choosing a slim vibrator in addition to using YES organic lubricants and YES Vaginal Moisturiser

For people who enjoy the sensation of a larger sex toy, we have a range of vibrators and dildos that can accommodate your needs. As with all our sex toys, we recommend you used plenty of lubricant, but especially so with larger products to make them feel even more pleasurable.

The Fun Factory Stronic range of sex toys offer thrusting motions, and are great for those who want to experience something similar to penetrative sex but a different sensation to vibrators. These products are also great for those with limited mobility or dexterity, as they stay in place.

As these products contain magnets, they are not suitable for use for those with a pacemaker

Rabbit vibrators offer both clitoral and vaginal stimulation. Many can be controlled independently, so you can enjoy clitoral stimulation or vaginal stimulation or both.

Body massagers such as the Doxy are great for easing aching muscles and for intense clitoral stimulation, especially if you experience decreased sexual stimulation. The Oriel is a rechargeable lightweight massage, suitable for those with limited manual dexterity,

Many women enjoy using a dildo that doesn’t vibrate. Made from glass, metal or silicone, dildos offer a wider range of sexual sensations. Glass and metal sex toys can be gently heated up in warm water or cooled down in the fridge.

Sex toys for Penile Pleasure

There are many sex toys for people with a penis and prostate gland offering a wide range of sexual stimulation, from vibrators, cock rings, penis sleeves and male masturbators, prostate massagers and anal toys. Many sex toys designed for vulva and vagina owners can be used on the penis too.

Cock rings are great for prolonging ejaculation and enable the penis to retain extra rigidity. This is because they restrict blood flow to the penis, resulting in harder and longer erections. Some cock rings resemble large rubber bands, but are, in fact, carefully designed not to entirely stop blood flow, instead restricting it in a comfortable way – so never use a rubber band as a cock ring!

The Atom Plus is the world’s first cock ring designed with dual integrated motors, offering intense perineum stimulation combined with powerful vibrations on the top of the shaft of the penis.

The unique sensation that perineum stimulation provides during masturbation can lead to a heightened pleasurable experience, resulting in a powerful orgasm. It features an ergonomically shaped contact area for a partner to grind against during penetrative sex, whilst the stretchy ring promotes strong, firm erections and an intense orgasm.

The unique shape of Atom Plus enables it to be used from flaccid and allows the wearer to orgasm even without an erection, making it ideal for those with erectile dysfunction.

Cock rings are not recommended to be worn for longer than 30 minutes or for men who have circulatory problems

Male vibrators include the Pulse Solo Essential by Hot Octopuss, which offers five pre-set vibration modes via its unique oscillating PulsePlates. The Pulse III SOLO’s design can be used whether the penis is erect or flaccid, meaning those with ED can still enjoy the scintillating sensations.

With a vibrating, open-sleeved design, the Rocks Off Hand Solo hides secret ridges and contours in its inner sleeve, providing pleasurable sensations in every stroke. The device is also 100% waterproof. Used with or without lubricant, it can offer very different sexual experiences.

Hans Solo is powered by an RO80mm bullet, which is incredibly easy to use and can also be used for clitoral stimulation too. Best of all, the vibrator can be removed to ensure thorough cleaning of the product.

Fun Factory Manta is designed to be the perfect fit for partner sex as well as solo play, sliding between your bodies and turning your penis into a vibrator. The flexible wings and ergonomic shape also let you stroke comfortably, the divided shape making the vibrations feel stronger whilst the Manta ridges hold lube for a better stroking sensation, so perfect for solo pleasure too.

The manta ray shape isn’t just for better coverage. The “wings” and the cleft in the centre also enhance the power of the motor, adding movement to the vibration, allowing you to enjoy precision stimulation over and under the head, along the shaft, and against the base. If using with a flaccid penis, the deep vibrations can help to promote your erection by offering pleasurable sexual stimulation

Penis sleeves such as the Fleshlight range of products offer life-size exteriors moulded on real body features, replicating vaginal, anal and oral sex sensations with moulded internal sleeves all packed neatly into a discreet canister for easy use and storage.

Couples Sex toys

If you want to experience a sex toy together, vibrating constriction rings as mentioned above, are great toys to try as they offer sexual stimulation to both of you.

Vibrating cock rings are designed to vibrate against the clitoris, offering both fantastic clitoral stimulation, ideal for strong clitoral orgasms, and the fulfilling sensation of her partner’s firmer penis. The Je Joue Mio is a rechargeable cock ring that is easy to use and clean.

The Pulse III Duo is similar in design to the Pulse III Solo but offers clitoral stimulation too. It is ideal when penetrative sex is not possible, as it can be used by the man during sex play even if he has erectile dysfunction.

It has a remote control to change the intensity levels of the soft vibrating underside, which sends waves of intense pleasure to the clitoris, bringing new levels of intimacy to foreplay.

Bondage offers a new sexual sensation in the form of ticklers, ties and blindfolds and can be just as fun.

Anal play

Sex toys for anal play, ideal for both sexes, come in all shapes and sizes, from anal beads, plugs and vibrating toys.

Prostate massagers are ideal for both sexual health and pleasure as they stimulate the prostate, creating intense orgasms and flushing out stagnant fluid which can build up, leading to enlargement and inflammation of the prostate gland.

When enjoying anal play, it is always advisable to use plenty of lubricant and start slowly. If you are using anal toys during sex, please ensure that you clean a product that you have used anally before using it vaginally to prevent spreading bacteria.

Remote Controlled Sex Toys

If you’re looking for new ways to spice up your relationship, then a remote controlled sex toy is a great choice! These innovative products are great for lovers of tech as well as those with limited dexterity and mobility.

Using lubricant with sex toys make them feel even more pleasurable

Looking after your sexual health and pleasure is essential, so always choose skin safe sex toys and lubricants. As with all our sex toys, we always recommend using lubricants as this makes to experience feel even more pleasurable.

Sexual lubricants aren’t just for women, men can benefit for using it too.

As the skin of the vulva and vagina are highly absorbent, always choose a skin safe lubricant, as some products may contain chemicals that can irritate or cause an allergic reaction.

Water-based lubricants are the most versatile of all the lubricant types as they are safe for all sexual activities, even for use with our silicone toys.

Oil-based lubricants give a great long-lasting and silky smooth experience. Highly beneficial for your skin, they moisturise and enhance the comfort of your sexual play, encouraging long-lasting pleasure.

The thicker consistency of oil-based lubricants makes them ideal and safe for play with anal toys.They can also be used for water play.

Using both YES water based and YES oil-based lubricants together, you can create a double glide effect, making sex feel more pleasurable and last longer.

Silicone based lubricants are not recommended for use with a silicone sex toy as it may damage the silicone of the product but are ideal for glass and metal sex toys.

Remember that oil-based lubricants are not suitable for use with latex condoms.

If sharing a sex toy, always use a condom on the sex toy to stay safe.

Healthcare Professionals recognise the Health Benefits of Orgasms and Sex

At Jo Divine, we are fortunate to work with many healthcare professionals working in the NHS and private practice who care about the sex lives of their patents and recommend some of our sex toys.

Sexual intimacy and pleasure are often overlooked by healthcare professionals (HCPs) due to embarrassment, preconceived ideas about who should be having sex and personal views about the subject. Yet, sex is important to so many people and when they have sexual issues, finding ways to overcome them is important to enjoying a good life.

There are some amazing HCPs including GPs who care about your sex life and recognise the health benefits of enjoying sex, the importance of intimate relationships and having an orgasm offers.

Our health brochure is given out by many healthcare professionals across the UK.

We believe that you are never too old to enjoy sex, so spice up your sex play, let go of your inhibitions, have fun and enjoy the best sex ever!